Welcome to our wellbeing page. My name is Mr Bond and I have been the Deputy Headteacher at Hoylandswaine Primary School for the last six years. During this time I have taught throughout Key Stage 2 and have experience of teaching in Key Stage 1. I have worked in education for twenty years and held various roles within primary and middle schools.
Over the course of the year, I will be here to support all children, staff and parents with their wellbeing. During this academic year there is likely to be some form of anxiety for some of our families, so my role will be to:
- Be the first point of contact for all parent emails to email@example.com (unless admin related in which case the office email of firstname.lastname@example.org should be used)
- Deal with all matters I can but if needed, the matter will be passed onto the class teachers or other staff who will send a note home, make a phone call to parents in response or see parents in person if they feel this is necessary
- Be available for parents at one of the entrances each morning to answer questions, give information, etc
- Liaise with parents to support your child’s needs or their own needs offering advice, support and links to other organisations that may be able to offer assistance
- Lead on anti-bullying and deal with bullying issues liaising with school staff and parents
- Attend meetings with school staff in order to support parents through processes involving their children
- As curriculum leader, support parents with any concerns they may have around our school curriculum offer
In addition to emailing me, you can also call me on the usual school number and the office staff will put you through if I am available.
As part of my role, I will also:
- Support our wellbeing ambassador programme in school where older children help younger children with their worries and concerns (hopefully later in the academic year)
- Work with individuals identified as vulnerable for any reason (related to SEN, relationships or temporary family issues) meeting with them regularly working on programmes agreed with parents
- Support the development of the PSHE programme alongside our PSHE leader, Miss Shepherd
- Train staff across school on supporting children’s mental health and wellbeing needs
- Lead our e-safety programme by training children to use social media responsibly as they get older
On an afternoon I will be leading a same day intervention programme working with children throughout school. Teachers will identify children who would benefit from extra intervention to fully understand a concept that was taught in the morning. This programme is fluid and teachers will identify children with a need on the day to support with either their English or maths skills.
For all the work I will be carrying out, I will be based in the pod (the Owls building outside the infant corridor).
Finally, I would like you to know that I understand growing up today seems harder than ever and young people face a variety of stresses we as parents may not have done. My role is to provide them with the tools and support to succeed and have a strong emotional resilience and positive mental health.
Please be assured that my door is always open and I look forward to meeting families both old and new to our school.
Resilience Guide for Parents
The children have integrated very well back into school life after a long period of absence for some of them. As they have settled back into school and a routine, I have noticed more and more children requiring support and part of this is about supporting them with their resilience skills both in school and at home. To support my observations, every half term I will be writing a piece based around a wellbeing theme that I have been discussing with the children as part of my weekly assemblies. As a school we are very much focussed on every child's wellbeing at this current time, including rebuilding self-esteem alongside academic achievement.
The first thing I would say is that all children are capable of working through challenges and coping with stress. Resilience is the ability to bounce back from stress, adversity, failure, challenges, or even trauma. It’s not something that children either have or don’t have; it’s a skill that children develop as they grow.
Resilient children are more likely to take healthy risks because they don’t fear falling short of expectations. They are curious, brave, and trusting of their instincts. They know their limits and they push themselves to step outside of their comfort zones. This helps them reach for their long-term goals and it helps them solve problems independently.
Stress and Resilience
All children encounter stress of varying degrees as they grow. Despite their best efforts, parents can’t protect children from obstacles. Children get sick, move to different places, encounter bullies and cyberbullies, take tests, cope with grief, lose friends, and deal with divorce, to name a few. These obstacles might seem small in the eyes of an adult, but they feel large and all-consuming to children.
Resilience helps children navigate these stressful situations. When children have the skills and the confidence to confront and work through their problems, they learn that they have what it takes to confront difficult issues. The more they bounce back on their own, the more they internalise the message that they are strong and capable.
Strategies to Build Resilience
As parents we can help our children build resilience and confront uncertainty by teaching them to solve problems independently. While our gut reaction might be to jump in and help so that our child avoids dealing with discomfort, this actually weakens resilience. Children need to experience discomfort so that they can learn to work through it and develop their own problem-solving skills. Without this skill-set in place, children will experience anxiety and shut down in the face of adversity.
Build a Strong Emotional Connection
Spend one-on-one time with your children: Children develop coping skills within the context of caring relationships, so it’s important to spend one-on-one time with them. When children know they have the unconditional support of a parent, family member, or even a teacher, they feel empowered to seek guidance and make attempts to work through difficult situations. Positive connections allow adults to model coping and problem-solving skills to children.
Promote Healthy Risk-Taking
In a world where playgrounds are made “safe” with bouncy floor materials and helicopter parenting, it’s important to encourage children to take healthy risks. What’s a healthy risk? Something that pushes a child to go outside of their comfort zone, but results in very little harm if they are unsuccessful. Examples include trying a new sport, participating in a school play, or striking up a conversation with a shy friend. When children avoid risk, they internalise the message that they aren’t strong enough to handle challenges. When children embrace risks, they learn to push themselves.
Resist the Urge to Fix It and Ask Questions Instead
When our children come to us as parents to solve their problems, the natural response is to lecture or explain. A better strategy is to ask questions. By bouncing the problem back to our child with questions, we as parents help our child think through the issue and come up with solutions.
Teach Problem-Solving Skills
The goal is not to promote rugged self-reliance. We all need help sometimes, and it’s important for children to know they have help. By brainstorming solutions with our children, we as parents engage in the process of solving problems. Encourage your child to come up with a list of ideas and weigh the pros and cons of each one.
When stress kicks in, emotions run high. Teach your child that all feelings are important and that labelling their feelings can help them make sense of what they’re experiencing. Tell them it’s okay to feel anxious, sad, jealous, etc. and reassure them that bad feelings usually pass.
Demonstrate Coping Skills
Deep breathing exercises help children relax and calm themselves when they experience stress or frustration. This enables them to remain calm and process the situation clearly.
Embrace Mistakes—Theirs and Yours
Failure avoiders lack resilience. In fact, failure avoiders tend to be highly anxious children. When parents focus on end results, children get caught up in the pass/fail cycle. They either succeed or they don’t. This causes risk avoidance. Embracing mistakes (your own included) helps promote a growth mindset and gives children the message that mistakes help them learn. It can be helpful to talk about a mistake you made and how you recovered from it.
Promote the Bright Side—Every Experience Has One
Optimism and resiliency go hand in hand. Some children may appear more naturally optimistic than others, but optimism can be nurtured. If you have a mini pessimist on your hands, acknowledge the feelings that lead to pessimistic thinking and teach your child to reframe their thoughts to find the positive.
The best way to teach resilience is to model it. We all encounter stressful situations. Use coping and calming strategies. Deep breathing can be an effective way to work through stress. Always label your emotions and talk through your problem-solving process.
Exercise helps strengthen the brain and make it more resilient to stress and adversity. While team sports are the most popular method of consistent exercise for children, all children really need is time spent outdoors engaging in a physical activity. If team sports don’t appeal to your child, encourage them or introduce them to bicycling, playing tig, or even just going on the swing at the playground. These are all great ways for children to engage in free play that also builds resilience.
Having children of my own, I know it's instinct to support our children wherever possible in order to achieve and succeed to the best of their ability. I hope that reading my piece above has perhaps challenged your thinking and helped you understand that building resilience for ourselves as parents and for our children supports in better and healthier relationships and develop us as individuals for the better. Ultimately, resilience helps children navigate the obstacles they encounter as they grow. It’s not possible to avoid stress, but being resilient is one of the best ways to cope with it.